I’m just gonna be straight up with you, my website intimidates me.
Funny to think that someone like myself, a person who could upload a TikTok rocking an overnight messy bun and PJ’s for the whole world to see, could also be so sketched out over utilizing her own website.
Yet here we are.
I suppose my logic was leaning more towards using this as a giant link directory…
“Do you want a T-shirt? Maybe a book? Cool, here’s the link. Okay bye!”
Hell, the only reason why I have two blog posts on here, is that Colin is amazeballs and forced them out of me.
It wasn’t until a year after this site launched that I found myself gawking at a message board, filled with hundreds of spam messages, but also so much more. Kind messages, from all of you!
Reading about how my words have helped you, that you’ve found entertainment here, it’s mind-blowing for me. Seriously, I’m a writer, and yet you all have found a way to leave me without words.
However, I hate to disappoint. Even though I am so happy that I have been able to help, I’m not one to give unsolicited advice, not unless I deeply trust that my words will not somehow dampen someone’s light.
Advice can be a dangerous thing.
Oftentimes, people tend to preach instead of teach. And, well, I am a person. I don’t want to cause any of you to second-guess yourself or your path with my personal biases.
BUT! I will stop in more often with a blog update 🙂 I have been super busy and loving it. So I suppose I have a lot to share and having a place to talk directly to you all is pretty neat. Still scary, but still cool.
I’ve talked about it before, the struggle behind marketing your work as an author.
I wish it was just as simple as writing a story and that was that, but there is so much more that goes with it…
You need an online presence!
You need something that is going to make you stand out. A reason for people to want to buy your work.
At the beginning of this year, I started to take my social media sites seriously, and it shows.
I was completely SHOCKED by that article!
But, at the same time, I have so much to thank Colin for! I listened to every piece of advice he had for me. No hesitation.
Before I knew it, I had people who were reaching out.
I feel like giving the label of ‘fan’ somehow puts the content creator above everyone else and that’s just not in my heart.
It’s not who I am as a person, writer, or creator.
I have supporters.
I have people who want to see me grow and be there alongside me through every step.
I have people who don’t just focus on the mistakes I’ve made in this amazing journey but focus on how I can make each venture even more spectacular.
I have friends. People who laugh with me at every dark joke…
These amazing souls cheer me on with every accomplishment, regardless of how small.
You see, I don’t have fans…
Honestly, I don’t think I would ever want them. Being able to connect with readers, authors, and fellow meme lovers, that is simply enough for me.
From the bottom of my heart, thank you so much, to all of you! Every share, like, comment, you have no idea how much it means to me!
Where Memories Are Made
Was it that bad?
It’s not a secret that this was my least favorite… And no surprise this reader felt the same way.
I stumbled on this review when I was attempting to put Stories Told (which contains Where Memories Are Made) on ACX (the site I use to have my audiobooks produced).
Instantly my heart dropped and I halted my possible production.
I have NEVER received such a negative review.
At first, I tried to reason with the review.
I looked up the reviewer’s profile and noticed something odd. Well, a few things that were odd.
Is this someone that I’ve offended in some way?
Is she really that dedicated to proper sentence structure and has zero admiration for anyone who dares to write outside the lines?
Why attack my story so fiercely, all while not even completing the story?
I took my concerns to a few different writing groups I’m a part of, and well, things just got worse from there.
I was more so sharing my experience than I was looking for someone to critique my work further. Though many of them were trying to be helpful, it still added salt to the fresh wound.
I wish that would have been enough for me to turn my frown upside down…
Unfortunately, the entire experience just threw me in a dark place.
Here I was, trying to find an excuse for why someone would have given my story a review like that, and in my search, I found more validation.
I was starting to really second guess my abilities.
Then things started to go even further south.
Where Memories Are Made had been at an almost 90-day standstill with sales. Now, now copies were being purchased.
I honestly thought that when this day would come, I would handle it with more grace. I believed that I would take the negative and learn from it. Slowly, very slowly, I’m pushing myself in that direction. In that initial moment, however, I seriously contemplated removing my story altogether.
K.J. is right. I don’t use an editor – or I didn’t. I couldn’t afford one at the time. But, she is wrong as well, maybe not in her critical statements, maybe not in her need to review, but she is wrong in her core.
It takes a certain type of person to, not just leave a negative review, but to personally attack the author that wrote the story. “A preteen making up silly stories” implies she is referring to my work as a whole and is not just aiming her review at this title alone. Sure, I could be reading more into this than what would be considered ‘healthy’, but the butthurt is strong in me, and this was my way of coping I suppose.
There is no doubt that more negative reviews will follow this and I’m sure I’ll be just as upset.
I know deep down that I need to separate myself from any negative feedback, or at least grow from it, but I am human.
If any other author has went through this, or fears going through it, then allow yourself comfort in my experience.
You are not alone.
You are not less talented.
You can’t give up.
We authors have to weed through the criticism that is meant to be helpful and the ones that are meant to be hurtful.
Take the helpful comments and use them to your advantage.
Take the negative ones as inspiration for characters to kill off.
Or in my case, kill the entire story three years later and release a second edition.